I quit smoking right before we met. Stay physically active to help ease bodily tension.Let friends and family members know when you need support or space.Avoid situations that you find anxiety-provoking, such as loud, crowded parties.Practice relaxation techniques, such as meditation.Establish sleep rituals and avoid caffeine too close to bedtime. I started because of my boyfriend, hed always smoked and, though i wasnt anti smoking, i wasnt a particular fan either but i tolerated my boyfriend smoking. I always thought he was a big anti-smoker. Now, often, I smoke multiple times a day. Mar 18, 2008. Unless you completely avoid all levels of closeness and intimacy in your relationship, smoking is a habit that leaves traces on even the most careful person. Anyway, the more I think about it the more excited I get -- and it will blow my husband's mind. The next scene takes place 2 weeks after she started smoking and Amber has learned how to smoke sexy. 1. About 15 months ago, I started seeing a new guy. So, the first thing you should tell him is that hes not alone. Kudos to you for wanting to! Now I smoke a pack a day, on a good stress-free day. He was a smoker and it always made me want to smoke with him. I have impressionable teens in my house. I have been feeling very stressed for a while now and fed up about everything. Sep 10, 2018 at 9:57 PM. That was years ago now. Try and keep the home stress free and joyful. :rolleyes: I think Ill smoke for a while more and thn quit. Kicking snow over my ashes, I head inside, washing my hands at the kitchen sink. OT: Husband started smoking. Rewards work well for successful stints without smoking.Aversion therapy (like Pavlok) can help to quit the habit.Determining and avoiding the habits and behaviors that lead to smoking. Unfortunately, I think we have to eliminate this option straight away. It didnt take him much to do it. We recently had this fight and right after the argument we went to a restaurant and he ordered a beer. I want my husband to keep chain smoking, said no wife ever. So I did because I loved him so much that I would do anything for him. I have a fiery determination and indefinite patience to remain free from smoking. We really clicked and started dating. After I had been smoking about three months, my husband had semi-emergency surgery. Answer (1 of 4): Why does everyone assume its her and their relationship? The nicotine withdrawal of the last 5 days has been physically tough: Nausea, sweats, headaches, and a feeling of emptiness. Started smoking again!! On week days when he gets home from work and on weekends usually after lunch. He was in-between jobs, my baby got meningitis and life was stressful. I will rise above the smoke. So my resolution is to start smoking some full-flavor cigarette and continue until I'm smoking at least 5 a day. Then they had a delay. We connect, communicate, understand and love everything about each other. My husband smokes weed every day. But I'm a closet smoker. Then they had a delay. After we got married, I thought it would be nice if he could share smokes with me, so I started coaxing him to try it. Before she started smoking, she was a good girl.Young, athletic, brilliant, a strong member of the 8th grade pom team, and a normal student. Then came high school, and with it, influences beyond her wildest imagination.New people, new sensations, havin' a party life. A smoke every now and then helps mellow things out.Then came marijuana, and boy what a rush that was! In reply to: Ron 's message, "Re: How I started smoking at age 40" on 23:56:58 02/05/02 Tue. When my husband and I started dating three years ago, we both had a strong opposition to smoking. That is not news. He asked one evening for me to smoke during sex, I did he absolutely loved it. About 15 months ago, I started seeing a new guy. I loved to see her smoke. When my husband and I started dating three years ago, we both had a strong opposition to smoking. It could be your husband is going through something hes internalized and smoking gives him some stress relief. Please don't start actually smoking and inhaling. How Should I Respond To My Husband When He Badgers Me To Start Smoking To Satisfy His Cigarette Fetish? smokingagain Wed 30-Apr-03 22:58:14. I'm a smoker and i absolutely hate it. One day, he decided to fulfill this fetish by getting his wife to start the habit of smoking. 1 Ask your husband to stop smoking for the sake of those around him, chiefly you and your son. Something A Bit Different. I'm really excited by this. I was trying to get pregnant and then I did and stayed quit. Other girls smoking. Friday.co worker stated no try looking in top desk drawer, wife wrote. But I'm horrendously addicted to them. I quit 15 years ago for 4 years. 6. level 1. My husband quit and then started again and then quit again and finally took to smoking out of sight. I'm really excited by this. He was a smoker and it always made me want to smoke with him. I had one last night and it felt so good, i've had 3 today. In the past seven years, Ive watched as signs of his habit slowly creep across his boyish face, his working mans hands, his gentle smile. I selfishly wanted her to smoke more. He has been working out of state for the last six months and during date night Saturday night he casually disclosed to me that he's been smoking one cigarette a day for the last five She initially acted as though she was excited (she's wanted to move-in together for a long time and I've been ambivalent). HUSBAND IS NOT COURTEOUS WHEN SMOKING POT. I started smoking at work and while driving, on a regular basis. I would think they are ways you could indulge him in this fantasy without endangering your health. You absolutely do! I was so naive that I had never heard of it. In addition, second hand smoke, inhaled by those around the individual who is smoking is equally dangerous to health. Hi everyone. Oct 28, 2012. farside said: My wife and I have been married for seven years and over the course of our relationship I have kept something from her: I have a fetish for women that smoke. Anyway I started smoking socially again as that was the only way I could handle him smoking, I know that many people on here will think I am off my rocker and maybe I am a bit weird but for some reason while I was with him and I was smoking too I could tolerate the disgusting habit. Keep the home environment happy. It's a descent into a vastly inferior lifestyle. Kudos to you for wanting to! smokingagain Wed 30-Apr-03 22:58:14. Do you want him to have a habit when he comes come, constantly smoking indoors, or going outside for a smoke, smelling like dirt, constantly needing to go buy more cigs or tabacco, etc. (13 Posts) Add message | Report. He's smart, thoughtful, kind, and sexy - I love him. I also started my wife smoking, back when we first started dating. If I don't like them then, I can quit. Regina-Phalange. I had one last night and it felt so good, i've had 3 today. Please don't start actually smoking and inhaling. I recently married the most amazing man in the whole world, "Jeremy." I would think they are ways you could indulge him in this fantasy without endangering your health. my wife stayed its 2:30 time for my smoke. Now two years later my baby is a beautiful healthy child, my husband has a great job, and he smokes two packs a week. Two years ago he started smoking again. Answer (1 of 4): Most of the smokers that stop cold turkey go back to smoking six months to one year after they stopped. Answer (1 of 16): Hi Im Lacis wife. She initially acted as though she was excited (she's wanted to move-in together for a long time and I've been ambivalent). I actually didn't start smoking until after I started nursing school (been smoking approx 15 months). He is stressed out and under pressure so he is smoking. By Anonymous Jan 20, 2018 We both smoked for 1-2 months and finally I told her I wanted her to stop smoking and go to therapy before we moved in together. Many moons ago, my husband started smoking (he didn't when we met), he got really bad at one point and would be going out to smoke in our garden every hour or so. He has eliminated almost all the harm from smoking so try to support him in this if you at all can. That is the critical phase, and around 95% fail at that point. Or so he thought. Regina-Phalange. Date Posted: 00:06:13 02/06/02 Wed. My extended family smoked and is So my resolution is to start smoking some full-flavor cigarette and continue until I'm smoking at least 5 a day. I have been with my husband for seven years and he has been a non smoker the entire time, or at least what I thought to be the entire time. My husband recently revealed his smoking fetish fantasy. MsLonely. Hope You All Enjoy.Please Subscribe. He actually bought an external hard drive for his computer because his collection of porn got so huge. When i met him he said he'd quit but then it started again and i realised it was an every day thing. Answer (1 of 16): Hi Im Lacis wife. My wife used to smoke a half pack a day of Marlboro Reds. In the bathroom, I spritz some lavender body spray and walk through the mist. He always had a smoking fetish as a child and was helplessly addicted to it. I am starting to feel good about myself again. I have been feeling very stressed for a while now and fed up about everything. My husband and I are in our fifties and have been very happily married for 32 years. My husband Eric has smoked a pack a day (or more) since I met him. Smoking of any kind is nearly impossible to hide, especially from your spouse. Cathy started smoking cigarettes years ago for her smoker husband named Paul. Dogzilla October 3, 2000, 2:06pm #8. You can ask every smoker what would be the one wish they could have granted and 95% of them would respond "I wish I never started smoking". After months of no success, he finally relented. I had not ever smoked weed in my life. My wife has started smoking, and the image of her doing that eats me up. In one of the posts from this Reddit user, not only does he hate seeing his spouse smoke, but its actually making him think about separation.For something thats supposed to relieve stress, smoking can eventually destroy a relationship. Only show this user. We both smoked for 1-2 months and finally I told her I wanted her to stop smoking and go to therapy before we moved in together. Dear Harriette: I am at my wits end. But there is truth. I quit smoking right before we met. I recently married the most amazing man in the whole world, 'Jeremy.'. Let's rewind a little. We dont know you, him, your marriage or your current situation so I always thought he was a big anti-smoker. This was upsetting to me but because I understood how stressed he was I didnt want to put more pressure on him. She reveals a cigarette and lights it up for him. Now, while I still smoke, I might smoke that in a week. Hi everyone. Then recently he went back to smoking. It's rotten that he started smoking again after so long but it's actually really, really good that he's switched to vaping. Then, 9 months ago, he told me he had a smoking fetish. We really clicked and started dating. One night my husband offered me a puff of his cigarette and I took it. If your husband or wife comes to you and says they are going to start using pot and you are uncomfortable with that, ideally they should submit to your opinion and avoid using marijuana. It was incredibly romantic and relaxing and a wonderful time. Anyway, the more I think about it the more excited I get -- and it will blow my husband's mind. 2. PlentyOfPubeGardens Fri 26-Jun-15 21:11:47. I am supposed to quit soon according to my husband. As you must know cigarette smoking is known to cause cancer and is considered dangerous to ones health. I have had this nagging desire to go out and buy cigarettes for a few weeks and yesterday I did! Mostly trough school but some of my closest friends also happened to be my neighbors. After wed been together about 8 months and, at times, he had tried to persuade me to try a cigarette, id got to the point where i was becoming quite irritable about him smoking. She was 17, I was 19, and it was hopelessly romantic to smoke cigarettes and talk all night. You can put the effects of your partners smoking into perspective by doing the following:Provide a cost analysis. Discuss how this habit isolates them and even you from social situations that dont allow smoking.Express that you want to live a long life with them in it, and youre concerned that their smoking wont make that possible. Growing up, I had a lot of friends. Scene 2: Skyping With Her Boyfriend. If I don't like them then, I can quit. And let me state upfront here- -you have a right to an opinion. back saying not there any place else,co worker stated try filing. Anyway I started smoking socially again as that was the only way I could handle him smoking, I know that many people on here will think I am off my rocker and maybe I am a bit weird but for some reason while I was with him and I was smoking too I could tolerate the disgusting habit. Got my Husband to start smoking. Sorry I have very strong feelings about this. My husband recently revealed his smoking fetish fantasy. Ask him why he all of a sudden wants to be an inferior person. In fact, smoking makes Alzheimer's less likely. By Anonymous Jan 20, 2018 I stayed with him prior to going into surgery. In reply to: Ron 's message, "Re: How I started smoking at age 40" on 23:56:58 02/05/02 Tue. Never over a pack and a half. His parents smoked, and he hated it. and co worker/smoker. My husband and I got into a habit in the evening of sitting out in the garden in the lovely cool summers and talking. She stands in a tight dress as she Skypes with her boyfriend and tells him how much she misses him and that she has a surprise for him. After wed been together about 8 months and, at times, he had tried to persuade me to try a cigarette, id got to the point where i was becoming quite irritable about him smoking. Let him indulge in activities that make him happy, even if you may dislike it. Sep 10, 2018 at 9:57 PM. He asked one evening for me to smoke during sex, I did he absolutely loved it. Date Posted: 00:06:13 02/06/02 Wed. My extended family smoked and is now dying from it. About a year after that I would notice different porn on his computer. His smoking costs us almost $4,000 a year. One of the biggest triggers of smoking habit is stress. This was a bit of a shock coming from him, he is a health nut! My husband and I got into a habit in the evening of sitting out in the garden in the lovely cool summers and talking. Then he made me start smoking because he said he thought it was sexy. After I had been smoking about three months, my husband had semi-emergency surgery. Started smoking again!! break,co worker said OK.a few minutes later my wife wrote asking. Getting wife to smoke. When I first started smoking cigarettes in my early 20s, it just kind of happened a cigarette here and there, usually at a bar, sometimes on Perfectly normal, my sissy husband loves watching me smoke. Keep in mind, oddly enough, these "closest friends" were not in my school. 9. I smoke a pack a day, same brand. I began when I was 13 and smoke a pack and a half a day of Benson and Hedges. I was kind of freaked at first. Here we go! Perfectly normal, my sissy husband loves watching me smoke. In fact, smoking makes Alzheimer's less likely. We are both non-smokers and she is very anti-smoking and has nagged her father to quit for years. My only issue is, Jeremy has an obsession/fetish with women smoking cigarettes. I started because of my boyfriend, hed always smoked and, though i wasnt anti smoking, i wasnt a particular fan either but i tolerated my boyfriend smoking. Dear Abby: I am a 28-year-old female. (13 Posts) Add message | Report. There are lots of possible reasons for this. My husband wasn't a smoker when we met. John Barleycorn. Tell your spouse how you feel. When he got back from deployment, he confessed he did smoke and had started when he deployed. I stayed with him prior to going into surgery. He made this wonderful promise that he would quit because he knew it bothered me before we got married. We both agreed we would NOT smoke. I have been with my husband for seven years and he has been a non smoker the entire time, or at least what I thought to be the entire time. This was a bit of a shock coming from him, he is a health nut! My story is more about how I succumbed to temptation and how I started smoking again. I love being a smoker. Sometimes more. In addition, second hand smoke, inhaled by those around the individual who is smoking is equally dangerous to health. I was kind of freaked at first. He's smart, thoughtful, kind, and sexy - I love him. I have had this nagging desire to go out and buy cigarettes for a few weeks and yesterday I did! Then, 9 months ago, he told me he had a smoking fetish. She is so sexy when she smokes. I would do everything in my power to have her quit. He nevers does that. If possible, speak to his friends who can help him face stressful situations easily. As you must know cigarette smoking is known to cause cancer and is considered dangerous to ones health. My story is more about how I succumbed to temptation and how I started smoking again. coworker,if she remember where she 'hid her cigarettes and lighter on. We connect, communicate, understand and love everything about each other. I was so naive that I had never heard of it. One day, my very healthy athletic The only way you can get a sure answer is by talking to him. I got pregnant (unplanned) and he promised he'd quit - and he did quit until our baby was about 6 months old.. At one point I was up to half a pack a day of Marlboro's, but I was able to cut back alot on my own. His parents smoked, and he hated it. Except for me. He eventually agreed to quit when I said I didn't really like it and was worried about his health. My husband is a pot smoker.